My Family Is A Disaster! There are no perfect families, each one has its own problems and is becoming known the term dysfunctional family. In a dysfunctional family, inadequate or immature behavior from one or both parents inhibits the healthy emotional development of the children. What makes a dysfunctional family? Different professionals will give different opinions, but we will share the Christian point of view. A family is dysfunctional when they don’t know God’s love and don’t follow the teachings that God gives us in His Word. The love of God teaches us: Each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband (Ephesians 5:21-33) . Children, obey your parents because you belong to the Lord, for this is the right thing to do. If you honor your father and mother, things will go well for you, and you will have a long life on the earth. Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. (Ephesians 6:1-4). The father and mother, are both responsible, for the emotional health of the family.